Personality Isn't Permanent - Book Summary

Benjamin Hardy



Psychologist and bestselling author Benjamin Hardy, PhD, debunks the pervasive myths about personality that prevent us from learning—and provides bold strategies for personal transformation
In Personality Isn’t Permanent, Dr. Benjamin Hardy draws on psychological research to demolish the popular misconception that personality—a person’s consistent attitudes and behaviors—is innate and unchanging. Hardy liberates us from the limiting belief that our “true selves” are to be discovered, and shows how we can intentionally create our desired selves and achieve amazing goals instead. He offers practical, science-based advice to for personal-reinvention, including:

   • Why personality tests such as Myers-Briggs and Enneagram are not only psychologically destructive but are no more scientific than horoscopes
   • Why you should never be the “former” anything--because defining yourself by your past successes is just as damaging to growth as being haunted by past failures
   • How to design your current identity based on your desired future self and make decisions here-and-now through your new identity
   • How to reframe traumatic and painful experiences into a fresh narrative supporting your future success
   • How to become confident enough to define your own life’s purpose
   • How to create a network of “empathetic witnesses” who actively encourage you through the highs and lows of extreme growth
   • How to enhance your subconscious to overcome addictions and limiting patterns
   • How redesign your environment to pull you toward your future, rather than keep you stuck in the past
   • How to tap into what psychologists call “pull motivation” by narrowing your focus on a single, definable, and compelling outcome
The book includes true stories of intentional self-transformation—such as Vanessa O’Brien, who quit her corporate job and set the Guinness World Record for a woman climbing the highest peak on every continent in the fastest time; Andre Norman, who became a Harvard fellow after serving a fourteen-year prison sentence; Ken Arlen, who instantly quit smoking by changing his identity narrative; and Hardy himself, who transcended his childhood in a broken home, surrounded by issues of addiction and mental illness, to earn his PhD and build a happy family.

Filled with strategies for reframing your past and designing your future, Personality Isn’t Permanent is a guide to breaking free from the past and becoming the person you want to be.


What will you learn from this book

  1. Your personality can evolve: Contrary to popular belief, personality is not set in stone. Instead, it is malleable and can be intentionally shaped through various experiences, behaviors, and mindset shifts.

  2. Identity is fluid: Rather than being confined to a static identity, individuals have the capacity to redefine themselves and shape their lives according to their aspirations and values. Embracing this fluidity opens up new possibilities for personal growth and fulfillment.

  3. The role of narrative: The stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we're capable of significantly influence our behavior and identity. By reframing our narratives and focusing on empowering beliefs, we can create positive change in our lives.

  4. Future self-continuity: Connecting with our future selves and envisioning who we want to become can serve as a powerful motivator for shaping our present actions. Cultivating a strong sense of future self-continuity encourages alignment with our long-term goals and aspirations.

  5. Small habits lead to big changes: Incremental changes and consistent habits are the building blocks of personal transformation. By focusing on small, manageable actions, individuals can gradually reshape their behavior and identity over time.

  6. Embracing discomfort: Growth often requires stepping outside of our comfort zones and embracing uncertainty. By embracing discomfort and challenging ourselves to confront new experiences, we can expand our capabilities and redefine our limits.

  7. The impact of environment: Our environment plays a significant role in shaping our behavior and identity. By intentionally designing our surroundings to support our goals and values, we can create a context that fosters personal growth and development.

  8. Reframing past experiences: Rather than being defined by our past experiences, we have the power to reinterpret them in ways that empower us and reinforce our sense of agency. By reframing past challenges as opportunities for growth, we can extract valuable lessons and move forward with resilience.

  9. The importance of self-awareness: Developing self-awareness is essential for understanding our motivations, strengths, and areas for improvement. By cultivating mindfulness and reflection, we can gain deeper insights into ourselves and make more intentional choices aligned with our values.

  10. Purpose-driven living: Aligning our actions with a sense of purpose and meaning is essential for cultivating a fulfilling life. By clarifying our values and pursuing goals that resonate with our sense of purpose, we can create a life that is meaningful and authentic.

Language English
No of pages 20
Book Publisher i-Read Publications
Published Date 24 Apr 2024

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